Hello all! Barricaded in my office when I SHOULD be marking assignments I am taking a bit of a break because I was sitting here contemplating YET AGAIN my single state (Jeez I can hear you all saying...get a life Cin" and besides I have a new computer and its a beauty to work on:) I have been contemplating the whole phenomena of the personal ad. Prolly because I had a date with someone I rang up based soley on the words he used in his:) And it went well...nice guy we'll see. I was trying ...

I just re-read my last post from the 18th the one where I was obviously high on orgasm hormones:) Sometimes I reckon my punnani moves into the space where my brain is supposed to be. Rob and I had a few discussions over the last three weeks or so... well more than a few...lets just say I got hit with a reality stick...really hard. I'd like to know if any of the other women out there have ever had the experience of being with someone and you think, for whatever reason that there are "unch...

Sigh. I've been absent for the last little bit...(a collective sigh of gratitude is heard across blog-land...thankfulness for that absence:)) Well dear readers in the ether it didn't fucking work! It ended two weeks ago. Was I sad? Yes....but mostly I was relieved. No shit and I kid you not. I think relief was the over-riding emoti(con)on. Funny thing when you end a relationship with someone, you realise that you were modifying your behaviour in ways you didn't realise. I am the fir...

Having been raised a JW and now a Buddhist my personal faith has evolved into a mix of the eastern and western philosophies...easy on the sin factor heavy on empathy and understanding, or the attempt to do both. Do Buddhists believe Buddha was God? In a word...no...he was a prophet and an immensely wise one somewhat in line with Jesus. Anywho...sitting on the bus on Monday arvo after my big emotional unwrapping with my bf the day before. And you begin to wonder to yoursef "do i give up ...

I was having a discussion with my best friend about compatibility...she's mid forties never been married, lots of relationships just never got married...one grown child. She was saying that what she realises as she gets older is that when you get involved particularly past about 35 you take on not just the person but all their background issues, past relationships and quirks and quarks that you have to be prepared to deal with or overlook. And that its hard...and that she worries she will n...

I have been reading some of the posts on here dealing with sex before marriage and ideas of love and purity. Its thoughtprovoking that these are all posted in what is obstensibly the sex section...cross referenced to the religion section perhaps? As for me and my dealings with others and the great sexual adventure I go in armed with a condom, a healthy attitude and a heart as open as the sky and calm as a summer sea...(grin)

Oh lord have mercy on my soul. I've been seeing this guy for four months and he's Catholic. So you know what that means...you do everything BUT. So what now? Can someone please pass me a rule book? Leaving issues. I'm caught, trapped in my own web. My ex left Steve left, so is Rob going to leave too? Its interesting, people say well if he doesn't do the penetration deal what does he do? I reckon I'm going to have his goddamn tongue bronzed when he carks it. If more women were honest ...

There were times after I found out my now ex was having the affair with my then friend that I felt like I was looking down the wrong end of a pair of binoculars. Everything was really small and it was like having cotton wool in my ears...or walking around with the sound in your life turned WAY down. There was one bad night coming home from work ...waiting outside my campus to cross the street to get to the bus stop that I almost got hit by a car. I just couldn't SEE anything but my own pain...

Once I got semi used to being single, and over the Steve debacle I decided to try a few different things. I'm a sociologist so I am always up for trying new things particularly from a cultural dating level...and hey you never know. SO...I placed a personal ad...I know I know...never thought I'd do it either but hey. Seven hundred and forty nine responses. Insane. I would have been here till 2020 trying to get through them all. Got some very interesting replies...and made a very good fri...

Oh bloody hell....2 years after the fact I STILL wonder how it is I got here at 38. Did anyone else out there suffer from systemic smugness when they were married? I know I did...I didn't know it then but I know it now. I think underneath it all I thought my single girlfriends were suffering from some sort of invisible defect...you couldn't see it but it HAD to be there, otherwise they'd have a man right? WRONG. I didn't factor the men in... some feminist I was heh, even if this was an u...