I just re-read my last post from the 18th the one where I was obviously high on orgasm hormones:) Sometimes I reckon my punnani moves into the space where my brain is supposed to be. Rob and I had a few discussions over the last three weeks or so... well more than a few...lets just say I got hit with a reality stick...really hard.
I'd like to know if any of the other women out there have ever had the experience of being with someone and you think, for whatever reason that there are "uncharted waters" in there, just waiting to be discovered...until you find out that nope...actually there isn't...the person is as deep as the river in Alice Springs in summer time...or maybe and more accurately in this case this person is simply looking for someone willing to "fit" inside the relationship perameters that they set?
I also started analysing a few things...the lack of "animate" objects in his house, no pictures of ANYONE only scenery, sunsets and the like, no plants...and an extremely minimialist approach to his surrondings. No pets...because "they die" I did ask him about some of these things and what he thought, and Rob admits he has huge problems getting close to people, anyone. His mum and dad form the largest part of his social circle and he has trouble with people in his space. Which is OK but not for me. I"m very outgoing, and I like hanging around with my friends, having a laugh and a drink. Rob also doesn't drink and when you ask him why he will say he doesn't like to "lose control". I asked him his plans for the next couple of years once and they all revolved around solitary activities, learn to kite sail, scuba dive, travel alone...and I thought this is not a man who really wants to connect with people.
I am NOT criticising by the way, I am just trying to explain what led up to this. Its everyone's right to live their own lives in any way they choose but I think you have to think about what you have to offer what you're willing to offer and what you expect before you involve anyone else. We still hang out Rob and I...he's a good bloke and we have some of the same interests. But we'd be doooomed....in a relationship.
Cheers
Mim